Who’s the Boss?
Excellent communication is an art form. But there is a common void in one area of importance that needs to be recognized. While traveling for several days recently, observing people in both business and personal settings, I found myself often wondering, who’s the boss?
Though I understand being concerned with the feelings of others, there are times it seems evident we should not strive for equality. While we are equal in civil rights–as we should be– we are not equal in authority. Authority is earned or appointed in many ways; education, promotion, seniority, or position.
In most situations, there should be a clear leader. And that person should take charge and be the boss. In order to participate successfully in most settings, a simple question must be asked and acknowledged by all involved. Who is the boss in this situation? If it is not you, step aside and let them lead.
At work: While it’s nice if we like our boss that is often not nearly as important as respecting their position of authority. Unless there is some type of abusive situation,
we must submit to appropriate authority and do our jobs to the very best of our abilities. Often people spend too much time complaining about people they don’t like, when they should expend that same energy on getting the job done. When you work hard enough to become the boss, then strive to be the boss you always wished that you had. Until then, get back to work. Pave your path with excellence and a great attitude.
At home: After several days around families on vacation, I’m amazed how many parents try to “sell” their children on doing what they are told. “You don’t want that candy, do you?” Of course they do, they are kids. Why are so many parents afraid to act like the boss? Children will not choose what you wish they would choose, because they do not share in your knowledge or experience. Nor can they calculate risk, thus the need for adult supervision. Take charge and step into your role as a parent. Be the boss they need you to be and create boundaries and enforce them. A parent’s primary job is to raise a responsible adult.
We need to have confident leaders, and we need to be confident leaders. Being effective can be as simple as understanding and accepting your role in a given situation, and stepping into it boldly, knowing you will learn as you grow.
Do you want to be a better leader? Use a strong voice, good posture, and confident body language. Maintain eye contact and listen when others speak. Respect others. These are teachable skills that convey trust and competency, and can be learned over time. The way you carry and present yourself will determine if others will respect you and your position of authority.
Who’s the boss? That should be obvious.